Excerpt from a religious talk given by Muft Taqi Usmani in Urdu:translated by Faraz Khan
...Soon we will begin with the marriage sermon (khutba nikha). Marriage sermon is a sunna (way) of the Prophet (peace be upon him). The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
"Marriage is my way"
In Islamic Law, marriage is celebrated with two witnesses and terms of agreements (ejab wa qabul) acceptable to both parties. In addition, the Prophet (peace be upon him) set a way for this ceremony that he would deliver a talk (khutba) before the marriage agreement. In this sermon, God is praised, salutations are sent on the Prophet (peace be upon him), and three specific verses from the Quran are quoted. The Prophet (peace be upon him) has exhorted these three verses from the Quran to be recited during the marriage sermon. The first verse is from Chapter Women (Surah Nisa', 1):
O People, Be mindful of your Lord who has created you from a single soul (meaning Adam), and from it it's mate (Eve). From this couple, He created many men and women (everybody is from the family of Adam and Eve). Again, be mindful of God especially when in His name you demand your mutual rights and the rights of relationship (people often ask for their rights in reference to God). Surely, God is ever watchful (of your speech and actions) over you. The second verse is from Chapter the Family of Imran (Surah aal-Imran, 102):
O you who believe, be mindful of God as you ought to be mindful. Do not die (death does not approach you in a state) except in a state of submission (as a Muslim) to God.The third verse that the Prophet (peace be upon him) mentioned during the marriage sermon is from Chapter the Confederates (Surah Ahzab, 71):
O you who believe, be mindful of God and always speak the truth. Thereafter, He shall straightened your affairs and forgive your sins. Thus, whoever obeys God and His messenger (Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him) shall indeed achieve a great success (in both worlds). These are the three verses that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught people during the marriage sermon. The central theme in all three verses is to be "mindful of God" (taqwa of Allah). This special exhortation of being mindful of God is given on marriage. Taqwa is emphasized through repetition. What is the reason for this multiple mentioning to "be mindful of God"? This God consciousness is a fundamental value and without it, human beings cannot attain success in both this world and the hereafter. Yet it is also important to understand that without the awareness of God, rights cannot be discharged faithfully.
It is because privileges and blessings of a marital relationship cannot be attained except when the couples have this God consciousness. Experience is my witness, when there is no fear of God in hearts, when there is no sense of accountability to God, when there is no sense that one day we would have to stand before God and answer for our deeds, 'till then a person cannot discharge his duties. Without God consciousness couples, families, friends, none can rightfully fulfill their marital obligations.
The only way to carry out one's responsibilities fully is to have hearts that are full of fear of God and have awareness that one day we have to answer for our deeds before God. Other than that, law of the land or the courts are ineffective in giving all due rights of people, unless there is a conscious that blames for usurping the rights of others. Although a person may or maybe be punished for his crime in this world, he would never be in a position to avoid the accountability before God. A person must think twice about the punishment of the hereafter before he thinks of any misdeed. One cannot be dutiful unless he is mindful of God.
Marriage is a new journey - a change in lifestyle. Before embarking on this journey, reevaluate and strengthen your pact of taqwa (God consciousness) and that is the purpose of my talk. On this happy and blessed occasion, may God give us a better understanding and a renewed determination to attain God consciousness. Amen.